Ideas for a Romantic Date
Romantic gestures on a first date are wonderful. By all means, bring flowers if you are so inclined, or a small token of your affection. Demonstrate thoughtfulness but try to avoid being too forward. True romance is not and cannot be manufactured. It is sincere and therefore far more likely to be spontaneous and unintentional when you are meeting for the first time. Relax, be yourself and be content to let things develop naturally.
Romance is also mutual. If it is sincere, it comes from your heart and is a product of intimacy and respect. So, even if you really want to impress the object of your affection, don't plan any grand gestures before you are certain that your efforts are both welcome and appreciated. Even if sincere, an unwanted and over the top romantic gesture can be uncomfortable and embarrassing for both parties.
Romance dating doesn't always have to include grand gestures accompanied with fanfare, flowers and violins. It certainly doesn't have to drain your pocketbook either. Sometimes the seeds of romance are sewn in the simplest gestures. Ask any woman that you trust - a single red rose is usually every bit as romantic as a dozen. Perhaps more so if you happen to have impeccable timing. When it comes to romance, the important thing is that the effort is genuine and the gesture is sincere. It truly is the thought that counts.
Here are a few suggestions that are intended to help you get started creating a little romance on your dates. Some ideas are relatively expensive while others only require an investment of your time and enthusiasm. All of these ideas and suggestions are bound to work out a lot better if you add your own personal flare. By the way, romance doesn't always have to be serious either. Don't forget to have a little fun too.
Dinner by candlelight
A romantic stroll
Write a letter, poem or love song
If you're having trouble composing a letter, try this. Keep your hand moving while you are writing the first draft - do not stop to edit under any circumstance. Just write down what you wish to say in simple language. Don't worry about how it sounds. Put the letter away for at least a day or two. When you re-read your letter, you may be surprised to discover it's better than you thought. Now edit. Keep the good stuff, discard the rest and do your best to clarify your intention. Be sweet but don't try too hard. The point isn't really the quality of your writing but the sincerity of your message. Simple is perfect if it is sincere.
Alternatively, spend an evening in and write a love song or poem together. Reading a favorite book or poem aloud can also be very romantic. Plan the date in advance and select reading material that is meaningful to both of you. Explain your selections to one another and take turns reading.
Your special place
Whatever you choose, make sure that your surprise reflects the preferences of your mate and not your own. The best sort of romantic surprise will demonstrate that you've thought about what makes your love interest happy.
Ideas for a Casual Date
Non-traditional dates can take some of the pressure off in dating. It may be far less intimidating to accept a shopping date than to agree to dinner and a movie if you are still a little unsure about your companion.
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